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Keeping Things Alive in the Bedroom Even When You Have Kids
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A lot of men and women that are married with kids are unhappy with their sex lives. Often spouses get angry, hurt, and even go so
far as to cheat or even get a divorce because the sex just is not what it once was. The fact of the matter is that both parties are
responsible for their sex life, and like every other aspect of a relationship, it can take a lot of work with children. While many
married couples have these blissful pictures of children and married life, it doesn’t always work out that way. Between work, school,
and household duties one or both individuals can end up too tired to tend to every aspect of the relationship, including the sexual
aspect.

Keeping It Spicy
Many married couples fall into a routine, and it’s hard not to when you’ve been together for many years. Your life is full of routines,
so before you know it sex has also become routine. What couples with children need to do is to work hard not to let sex become too
routine or too mechanical. Couples should be having sex because they want to have sex, not because they feel like they have to.
The way to do this is to keep your partner on his or her toes all the time!

Spontaneity Keeps It Going
Married men and women often wonder where that spark, that heat, that certain something went when they had kids. That certain
something is also known as spontaneity. True, it can be difficult to just tear one another’s clothes off in the middle of the day or
night with kids, but you can still keep it very spontaneous. When the kids are watching television, when older children are in the
shower or bath, or doing homework married couples can find five or ten minutes to have a “quickie” that will breathe new life into
that old sexual routine. While these quickies should not be what it is all about, it can make both parties hungry for more so that
they do make time for sex more often and that they break out of the rut they are currently in.

Maintaining a healthy sex life when you have children can be difficult, but if both parents are dedicated to keeping the spark alive it
can be done. If you have sex because you want to have sex and you take every chance you have to get intimate, you’ll find that it
doesn’t matter how long you’ve been married or how many kids you have, your sex life can be great!

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Author: Jenna Stevenson

Jenna Stevenson founded the sex toy forum The Latest Vibe and reviews adult sex toys at Batteries Not Included - >Sex Toys

A Guide to Vibrators

Sex toys can be a wonderful enhancement to lovemaking and a source of truly spectacular pleasure. This guide will provide descriptions of various vibrators, as
well as safe sex toy practices and directions for cleaning.

Plug-in Vibrators and Accessories
Hitachi Magic Wand - This plug-in vibrator is probably the best place to start. It has a soft, round head that is used to massage the clitoris and the areas around it.
It's one of the most popular choices.

G-Spotter - This attachment for the Hitachi Magic Wand (which also fits the Rechargeable Wand) curves upward slightly so that it can be used for vaginal
penetration as well as G-Spot stimulation (which is on the front/top wall of the vagina, about one inch inside.)

Battery Powered & Rechargeable Vibrators

Vibrator Tips
Vibrators are fun for almost everyone, but are especially popular among women. Using a vibrator clitorally is among the easiest ways for most women to reach
orgasm, with oral sex and water stimulation high on the list too. Here are some basic tips for getting the most out of a vibrator:

If a woman feels comfortable making a little noise, then she'll probably find that letting herself moan or sigh while exhaling will improve the whole experience.
Moving or rocking her hips rhythmically, in time with her breathing, can also make a big difference.
If the vibrations are the right speed but seem too intense, then a woman might try either draping a thin cloth between her clitoris and the vibrator or else leaving a
light article of clothing on. She can also try moving the vibrator to the side of the clitoris rather than keeping it directly on the clitoris.
Rather than keeping the vibrator stationary and using heavy pressure, a woman can try using lighter pressure but moving the head of the vibrator back and forth in
circles.
If a woman is already comfortable moving her hips in time with her breathing, she can try squeezing and relaxing her "PC" muscle (the same muscle she squeezes
to stop the flow of urine when she?s urinating) in time with her pelvic movements.
Some women find they can have multiple clitoral orgasms with their vibrator. The secret is to back off on the pressure, keep the vibrator moving, and avoiding direct
contact with the clitoris until the sexual arousal builds up again.
Some women use a lubricant such as Astroglide or KY Jelly, which can help make vaginal or anal penetration of any kind feel much better.
Men can enjoy vibrators too. For men with female partners, one obvious approach is for his partner to use a vibrator on her clitoris during intercourse with him. The
vibrations reverberate onto his penis, a sensation which some men really like. Men can also enjoy vibrators without a partner. This is a fundamentally different
experience than masturbating with the hand, as (chances are) his penis will be semi-hard through much or all of the experience rather than fully erect. However,
men who do the rhythmic breathing, pelvis rocking and PC muscle contractions may find that they like the sensation a great deal. Some men find they can reach
pleasurable orgasms with a vibrator without ever having a full erection.

Cleaning the Vibrator
Vibrators can be easily cleaned with simple soap and water. People who want even more sterilization can use hydrogen peroxide, making sure to wash off any
residue. Parts of the vibrator that hold the batteries should not be submerged. Do not submerge electric vibes at all when plugged into the wall. If cleaning seems
like too much of a pain and a person still wants to use his/her toy with more than one person, it is wise to always put a latex condom (or latex glove, in the case of
some larger vibrators) over sex toy and discard the glove or condom when finished. Rubber dildos are porous and it isn't really practical to completely sterilize them,
so it is wise to put condoms on them when sharing them with multiple people, in order to prevent the spread of any STD's.

References
Society for Human Sexuality. A Guide To Sex Toys. 6 May 2004.

Edited 2/6/07